Comments on: Belly Rubs http://verygoodyear.wordpress.com/2008/10/13/belly-rubs/ Wed, 13 May 2009 07:13:50 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: fyreflixie http://verygoodyear.wordpress.com/2008/10/13/belly-rubs/#comment-196 fyreflixie Tue, 14 Oct 2008 18:36:22 +0000 http://verygoodyear.wordpress.com/?p=248#comment-196 @Gala: All I could think about when the boys were misbehaving was how you would NEVER have put up with any of us doing that sort of crap! @Ms Myg: It was such a great comment tho! Maybe copy & paste for a new blog post ;) @Gala: All I could think about when the boys were misbehaving was how you would NEVER have put up with any of us doing that sort of crap!

@Ms Myg: It was such a great comment tho! Maybe copy & paste for a new blog post ;)

]]> By: Ms. Myg http://verygoodyear.wordpress.com/2008/10/13/belly-rubs/#comment-195 Ms. Myg Tue, 14 Oct 2008 17:54:42 +0000 http://verygoodyear.wordpress.com/?p=248#comment-195 Holy crap that was a long comment! Sorry - I should have done my own blog post!!! Holy crap that was a long comment! Sorry – I should have done my own blog post!!!

]]> By: Ms. Myg http://verygoodyear.wordpress.com/2008/10/13/belly-rubs/#comment-194 Ms. Myg Tue, 14 Oct 2008 17:54:16 +0000 http://verygoodyear.wordpress.com/?p=248#comment-194 On the belly rubs, I am with you. I am at 21 weeks and twice your size (I got two cooking in there though). I look like I'm a good month ahead. I had a coworker just rub my belly without invitation and I was like, "Excuse me??? Do I look like a petting zoo captive to you?" We've all got different boundaries on this stuff and I'm not sure where mine are. On the other hand, a couple of weeks ago it was the 2 year anniversary of my father-in-law's death and we were spending the day with my mother-in-law. She got teary eyed at one point talking about him and reached out for my belly and then hesitated, like she wondered if it was okay. I grabbed her hand and placed it on my belly and held it there, and she just smiled. At that moment I had this sort of epiphany. Being pregnant is like having this extra life force with you and I think people are just drawn to it. When I thought about the connection between my husband's dad exiting the world and his two sons' soon-to-be entrance, that whole cycle of life thing just hit me in a totally new way. So I was really honored to share a moment with my mother-in-law like that, and it made me a little less irritable about people who are moved to touch me. I don't want to be groped by random folks in the grocery store, by any means. But I think I have a better feeling about that impulse in people. It's not just that they're rude, though some definitely are. It's that they're drawn to something that's this every day miracle. And I can understand that. As for the two boys at your family gathering OH. MY. GOD. If I had to sit through a day of that I'd probably go insane. The parents are raising those kids to be highly dysfunctional as they get older. Expect tales of spectacular school failure and run ins with the law. I am serious! I've worked with a lot of different kids with a lot of different problems over the years, and there's nothing worse than kids whose parents never taught them boundaries. They are the worst and the hardest to deal with, by a long shot. I actually feel bad for them! On the belly rubs, I am with you. I am at 21 weeks and twice your size (I got two cooking in there though). I look like I’m a good month ahead. I had a coworker just rub my belly without invitation and I was like, “Excuse me??? Do I look like a petting zoo captive to you?” We’ve all got different boundaries on this stuff and I’m not sure where mine are.

On the other hand, a couple of weeks ago it was the 2 year anniversary of my father-in-law’s death and we were spending the day with my mother-in-law. She got teary eyed at one point talking about him and reached out for my belly and then hesitated, like she wondered if it was okay. I grabbed her hand and placed it on my belly and held it there, and she just smiled. At that moment I had this sort of epiphany.

Being pregnant is like having this extra life force with you and I think people are just drawn to it. When I thought about the connection between my husband’s dad exiting the world and his two sons’ soon-to-be entrance, that whole cycle of life thing just hit me in a totally new way. So I was really honored to share a moment with my mother-in-law like that, and it made me a little less irritable about people who are moved to touch me.

I don’t want to be groped by random folks in the grocery store, by any means. But I think I have a better feeling about that impulse in people. It’s not just that they’re rude, though some definitely are. It’s that they’re drawn to something that’s this every day miracle. And I can understand that.

As for the two boys at your family gathering OH. MY. GOD. If I had to sit through a day of that I’d probably go insane. The parents are raising those kids to be highly dysfunctional as they get older. Expect tales of spectacular school failure and run ins with the law. I am serious! I’ve worked with a lot of different kids with a lot of different problems over the years, and there’s nothing worse than kids whose parents never taught them boundaries. They are the worst and the hardest to deal with, by a long shot. I actually feel bad for them!

]]> By: Gala http://verygoodyear.wordpress.com/2008/10/13/belly-rubs/#comment-191 Gala Mon, 13 Oct 2008 19:41:20 +0000 http://verygoodyear.wordpress.com/?p=248#comment-191 Well, judging by the way the parents acted w/those boys, they are not setting a very good example. The hardest thing about being a parent that wants to be a GOOD parent is that you can never back slide. Rules are rules, be it at home or out in public. So, if you don't want your kids to jump on grandma's couch, you better not allow them to jump on your couch. Never let your children disrespect you, and they won't disrespect other adults. Anybody can be a parent...it takes hard work 24/7 to be a good parent. And in the end, when they all move out, you just hope you did well. Well, judging by the way the parents acted w/those boys, they are not setting a very good example. The hardest thing about being a parent that wants to be a GOOD parent is that you can never back slide. Rules are rules, be it at home or out in public. So, if you don’t want your kids to jump on grandma’s couch, you better not allow them to jump on your couch. Never let your children disrespect you, and they won’t disrespect other adults. Anybody can be a parent…it takes hard work 24/7 to be a good parent. And in the end, when they all move out, you just hope you did well.

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